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Bio Phil and Susan, Relationship Coaches for Singles, Couples and Entrepreneurs: Both have learned life lessons in relationships and how to apply them in business, attracting and working with their ideal clients. By applying specific principles and teachings, they will guide you to develop the ideal relationships you desire in your personal life and business. Transparency When you hear the word relationships, what comes to your mind? We think of our families, friends, partners or spouses. But a business relationship with a customer, client or co-worker, what does that look like? Let's start with our personal relationships. Isn't there something that draws us to each other? We are attracted to each other for many reasons, our energy, zest for life, appearance, behaviors, interests, life style, things in common or not in common, beliefs, desires etc..... There is a myriad of things that attract us to each other in so many ways. You have heard that opposites attract. We like change even if we are comfortable in our security boxes. Something new, something fresh, something we have not thought of before. Change is good and helps us define what we want and don't want. We like to feel special, important to our significant others. We like being heard, listened too, understood, accepted the way we are. We like to be respected, trusted, free to be ourselves and allowed to do so. We like intimacy, closeness, caring and compassionate responses. We like our needs met and we enjoy meeting their needs. We want to feel loved and appreciated, to feel valued and nurtured. All of these values and principles are part of getting to know each other, getting close to each other, being open and vulnerable. It is being real, being human and not fake. People know if you are sincere and if you have integrity. All relationships work off of the same principles and values. A client likes to be heard, listened too. They want to be understood and respected. They have needs that they want met just like anybody else's. They have feelings, emotions, desires, likes and dislikes. Sometimes they know what they want or think they know what they want. Once you listen to them and understand the need, you may be able to help them see that maybe what they thought they wanted is really not what they want at all. But it comes down to communication and good listening skills. Half our challenges would be met if we would slow down long enough to hear what they have to say and respond to it. Other times just listening to people is all it takes. People have been so mishandled when it comes to this that there becomes trust and respect issues, so you may have to earn those. All relationships whether personal or business can be treated the same with respect, dignity and honor. Tips and tools to attract and keep your clients 1) Don't force or sell something that the client does not need or want. 2) Focus on building relationships on a personal level with clients that allow them to feel appreciated and empowered. Make suggestions, give options and let them make the choices. They will respect you for that. 3) Make the clients needs more important then a sale. Don't make money your priority, but instead, let your priority be the clients well being. 4) Treat a client the way you would want to be treated. When you build your business with integrity and honesty, they will always come back. 5) Instill these values within you first, become that which you want to attract. If you become respectful, trustworthy, honest, a person of integrity, then you will attract those kind of clients into your experience. They will be a reflection of who you are. so that can be a measuring stick for you to see how well you are doing. 6) Do not be afraid to give a little. Be flexible and allowing with transparency. When you connect and bond with people, they become friends. Friends will come back. A one time sale is just that. Repeat customers are what you want. 7) Learn to work with people, if they see you are willing to bend a little, they will too. 8) Show much appreciation and gratitude for your clients. We all like that don't we? 9) The more you give, the more you will get. Generosity is too scarce these days. 10) If you have a mindset of lack full thinking, then you will not get past that. There is a whole universe of abundance available to you if you believe and change you mindset. Learn to live in the moment, smell the roses, enjoy life each day and allow things to fall into place for you. Have fun with creating your business and relationships. With much Gratitude and Appreciation, Phil Long /Susan D'Amico
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 My dear loved ones,
I would like to talk about a way to free yourself and feel your soul; the real you that may be hiding from life. All of us have life experiences and stories to tell. It may have been a one time event, a repeated experience or may still be continuing today. Some have experienced loss, abandonment, physical, emotional and spiritual abuse. Tremendous pain and suffering, to the point of feeling lost, no hope or foreseeable future. And many have taken their lives because they cannot bare the pain anymore. Many of these experiences have come at a very young age and you may not remember a lot of the details, they seem fuzzy. You may not know or be sure who the person was or is that caused you such pain. If you were a young child, you had no way to take care of you or protect yourself. You were and are a victim of society perhaps, at a time that you should have been loved, nurtured and provided for instead of abused, neglected and tossed aside. But you are here now. Somehow you survived your past and or current experiences that have been blocked, hidden away and not spoken of. We all have similar stories and experiences in life, and we think we are the only ones. It is too shameful to talk about; the guilt and self judgement is too much to bare, we are bound in these chains that keep us stuck. We are afraid, we have been blamed and conditioned to think it is our fault. Loved one, understand that you're not at fault. You didn't ask for such atrocities to happen to you. It was not in your control to stop it. You couldn't have if you wanted to.... So much in this world that hurts, that destroys, that separates us from our true identities. There is a way that can help you free yourself from your agonizing past or current experiences. To do so, you will need to let go of fear; be brave, take a small step and reach out. If you tell your story to one person, to a group, or here on social media, you will start to release the chains that have bound you all this time. The locks will open and fall off. You will be able to breath, release and let go of it all. Your heart will be full of love, freedom, forgiveness and compassion. This is the beginning of your awareness to learn to love you, take care of you, and rediscover who you are. We all want to be loved, nurtured, heard, respected and understood. We all deserve it, and it starts with loving yourself enough to do it. Loved one, In doing this, you will free yourself from the chains that bind you. From the ghosts of the past, to your truth in the present. You will also discover that there are many who have experienced similar situations as you have and they understand you. The mere fact that you are still here says you are a strong survivor. We can all help encourage each other with our stories and begin our healing. I share this with you from a heart of unconditional love and acceptance. There is no judgement or condemnation here. Each of us is part of this human family and experience. You may say, there is no one i know or trust to tell my story to. Think hard; they're people you can seek out. You may even share here or message me privately if you are afraid to be totally transparent. That's okay to, the sooner you take a step, the closer you will be to releasing those chains. I encourage you to do so. Just realized that these experiences have taught us lessons and are instrumental in who we have become today. When we are consciously aware of things, we can then take steps to make changes in our lives. These experiences teach us much about ourselves and what we want and don't want in life. You choose and create what you want, you have that right, it's your life and nobody else's. It is all about your relationship with yourself and others. Live your life in peace, joy and love. Be blessed, ❤ Phil |